Miserable
journey of boy to old man
By
P.R.Ramachander
(Based on the Tamil
write up of Padmanabhan Krishnamurthy. Thanks
to him. True.It is slight exaggeration
and very male centric .Excuse me
for that)
When a boy is
born , sweets are exchanged,
And every one
fondles him and his mother cherishes him,
He would be like
an unchained bird till he attains age of ten,
And his story after that
is full of burden and tragedy.
When he is in high school, parents warn him
,
That if he does not study well , he will not get seat in college,
And once he is admitted in college they
warn him hourly,
Unless he studies
well, he will not get admission in
engineering.
After he
struggles and gets admission in engineering,
They keep on reminding him, that , he has taken a loan to
study,
And unless he
gets a good job, he would not be able to clear the loan,
Would not be able to help family in marrying off his sister and so on and on.
Then after getting a job, living in a hopeless PG, always worried,
About burden of parents
and for helping them fulfil their dreams,
Taking meals in a way side hotel, travelling in
a rocking rickety bus,
And putting on a
smiling face before his parents, they spend their time.
By the time he
repays the loan and sees to it
that sister is married,
The parents , get worried that
, their son is suffering alone
and,
Arrange a marriage
for him and show off before their bride’s family,
That they are also
rich, by making the boy apply for a loan from his office.
Suppose
after marriage , he
shows love to his wife
,
His family will
say , that he has fallen in her net
strongly,
But if he shows a
soft corner towards his own parents,
This wife will cry that ,they are everything
and she is nothing for him.
He is not supposed to tell his
wife about problems in office,
And he is not at all supposed to tell about the volcanoes at home,
To anyone outside
and supposed to bend and
adjust in both places,
And he is also
suppose to be a social human being in love with his relatives .
After the
initial life of love
becomes a dream and a sore
torture,
After every time
laughing when mentally tortured
by wife as well as parents,
After trying to obey the wife , after
trying to look after his parents,
Getting bad name
from both from wife as well as parents, he becomes a lunatic of
sorts.
After he
becomes a father to children
and tries to fulfil,
Their desires too to the extent possible his wife
would call him a miser,
And She would tell
her friends that she
is suffering , because ,
She has a
married to a morose short
tempered brute, and then also he should
smile.
Festivals would come
and he would struggle and
suffer ,
To get new cloths
to all his family members except of course himself,
His relatives
would celebrate functions like
marriage and if he presents,
Some small
affordable thing and the whole world would call him useless.
If one of their
long term acquaintances buys a
car or a house ,
His wife would
say,” See those people who are
real males ,
Unlike you, who cannot
maintain his family properly,
I do not know
what great sin I did in last life
to become your wife.”
If he is
strict and disciplined with his children , she will say,
That he does not have
even a drop of affection to them,
And if he is not
strict with them then also she will say that ,
He does not know how to
bring up children at all.
If his parents
become very old and bed
ridden she will shout,
“Is it my job,
what have they given to me , so either
,
Send them to your brother’s home or old age home,
And if he does , he would be called a modern day Rakshasa by society.
Whatever a man
does all his life , all blames would come to him,
And every moment of his life would be filled with misery and mental
torture,
And he would
never understand , how he deserved all that,
In spite of
carrying the responsibility of a family
from birth to death.
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